It would be very easy to turn this question around and ask, “Who trusts you?” So many things in life are built on trust. What chance does a marriage have to thrive or flourish if either person in the marriage can’t be trusted? Have you ever tried to build a business partnership with someone you don’t completely trust? It won’t work unless something happens to change your trust for them. Would you vote for someone for an important office that you didn’t trust? What about in church, what happens if you don’t trust the ones in leadership or the one who preaches to you or teaches the class you are a part of? The truth is if we don’t have trust in our friendships, or family or businesses or government we are in deep trouble. If we don’t have trust in church then just about anything that is done will be questioned, doubted and receive almost no real commitment to be a part of the people.
In Luke 16:10-12 Jesus said, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not be trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?” Think about just how powerful this point is. If you can’t trust a person with a dollar, why in the world would you give them $100.00? One of the huge lessons every parent needs to get across to their children is that you must demonstrate trust in the little things in life to ever be trusted with anything of importance. Can you even imagine a college recruiting a student, much less offering them some kind of academic scholarship if it is part of their record that they cheated with regularity on their tests? Too often people get the idea that some things are so small and so unimportant in life that it won’t matter if I don’t get this job right. But when I have a really important work to do, I will make certain to do it right. But trust is only built by one being trustworthy in all aspects of life.
One thing that stands out to me in this whole topic is that Paul in describing love that is the greatest of all virtues declared that love always trust ( I Corinthians 13:7). In reading a book recently by Stephen M.R. Covey on the topic of “The Speed of Trust” he makes the point that trust is built on two major foundations. In business, church, family or recreation trust demands both character and competence. When it relates to character if one is not honest, then they really can’t be trusted in anything. But with regard to competence, one might be very trustworthy in some areas of life where they have talents, or have prepared themselves well for a job but would not be trusted at all in some other area where they had no experience and no real ability to perform. One can be as honest as the day is long and still have no ability in playing basketball. Would a coach put one into the game to play for the championship who he knew had character but who was 5’2″ and couldn’t run up and down the court without stumbling?
Building trust then demands first that one be a person of character, honesty, and dependability. These things often have to do with training and with conversion to Christ to live like him every day. But when it comes to being competent, it has to be learned and developed in whatever area one longs to have the trust. Too often we wish to put people into some position for which they have no training or special ability and then are frustrated when they don’t succeed in the task. I have lots of friends whom I trust in all kinds of situations. But if I am having chest pains, I want to get to a person who has been trained as a cardiologist and knows what they are doing to take care of a heart problem.
You can be one who is trusted in integrity and you can be one trusted in areas where you have given the time and effort to learn how to do a job you are called on to do.