The pull of pornography seems to become stronger all along. There was a time when porn was fairly limited to magazines and books. As every new medium becomes popular it is used for the spread the filth. While the magazines, the books, movies and television are active means of spreading such materials, the prime means seems to be the internet. The shear evil of pornography is demonstrated by the sneaky methods of trying to get it to people who have no desire to look at it. Things that are good and healthy don’t have to pretend to be something they really aren’t to get people to look at them. Anything that depends on deceit to propagate itself is from the devil.
The word “pornography” comes from the same Greek word, “Pornea” from which we get the word “Fornication” or “Sexual immorality.” It is the same word from which we get the word “Prostitution.” I’ve heard all the arguments that looking at porn doesn’t really hurt anyone or anything. It is just between the person looking and his own mind. But the truth is that what one sees and thinks about affects their thinking about relationships and even their views of the opposite sex. Multitudes of marriages are destroyed by pornography.
It is impossible for a person to think about sex with their wife or husband in a pure and wholesome way while filling their minds with the perverted ideas of porn. Sexual relations in marriage are completely holy and good. In Hebrews 13:4 it says, “Marriage is honorable in all and the marriage bed is undefiled. But the sexually immoral and the adulterers God will judge.” In I Corinthians 6 Paul pleads with us to “Flee sexual immorality.” He said that other sins one commits are outside the body, but the one who has sex with a prostitute sins against their own bodies. He pointed out that our bodies are the temple of the Lord and that we aren’t our own but we belong to the Lord. Chapter 7 follows that discussion by saying that in order to avoid sexual immorality every man ought to have his own wife and every woman her own husband. He said a wife’s body doesn’t belong to her but belongs to her husband and the husband’s body doesn’t belong to him but to his wife. He challenged each to not defraud their partner but to freely give themselves to each other.
In a healthy marriage the sexual relationship is healthy and the respect of one for the other is great. When one gets involved with pornography it leads to thinking about their mate as property and the sexual relationship as simply a matter of personal pleasure. In a godly marriage every person thinks of the other and aren’t selfishly focused only on themselves.
In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus was warning against adultery when he said, “Whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery in his heart.” Both to demonstrate the seriousness of the problem and the need to stop it before it goes too far in your life Jesus said, “If your right eye offends you pluck it out and throw it away for it is better to go through life with one eye than to have both eyes and be cast into hell. If your right hand offends you cut it off and throw it away, for it is better to go through life with one hand than to have both hands and be cast into hell.”
The problem of looking with lust is so serious that to solve it or let it go will determine whether one goes to hell or not. It is something that when we first see it developing in our lives we should cut it off immediately. Usually a person doesn’t jump right into the hard core porn. It is usually something that builds in a persons life so that it takes more and more for one to satisfy the lust of their hearts. Instead of waiting until it has become the biggest thing in my life I need to stop it while it is still small in my life. Truthfully, anything that pictures the sexual relationship between a man and woman as using the other person instead of treating another with respect and love it is pornography and destructive of right thinking.
Think about it for a moment. Why would anyone get involved in any way of life that they are constantly afraid of being caught? Why would I do anything that I have to hope the good people in my life will never find out about it? Why would I do something that I would be ashamed for my mother and dad to know that I was doing? Why would I do anything that I wouldn’t want my children to know that I did it?
Paul wrote to his young friend Titus, “Unto the pure all things are pure. But to the wicked and defiled nothing is pure but even their mind and conscience is defiled.” The challenge to all of us is to live every day so that there is no fear of anyone finding out something about us that we would be ashamed for the world to know about.